The bread and nothing but the bread

I did not expect bread to become important to me.

Emotionally important.

And yet here we are. When you suddenly have a bunch of food restrictions, bread stops being bread.

Bread is toast.

Bread is a sandwich. Bread is “I forgot lunch.” Bread is “the baby will not let me cook.” Bread is “I need calories in my body immediately.” Losing an easy bread option made me realize how often I was using it to hold my day together. So when I finally found a loaf that worked and that I actually liked?

I became loyal.

Possibly too loyal.

If I see it in stock, I feel relief. If the shelf is empty, I take it personally. If the packaging changes, I become suspicious. What have you done to my bread? There are parents with restricted diets who talk about missing simple foods more than anything fancy, and I completely understand that now. It is not necessarily the restaurant dessert.

It is toast.

It is being able to make lunch without planning lunch. It is the foods that quietly make everyday life easier. So I stopped trying to find the perfect bread. I needed a good-enough bread that worked in my actual life. Could I buy it nearby?

Would I eat it?

Would it survive the freezer? Did it cost an amount I could emotionally tolerate spending on bread? These are my standards. I also started freezing it immediately. Past me would buy bread and assume we would simply eat it before it went bad. Current me has experienced loss. Half goes in the freezer. Sometimes I buy two. I know there are people making beautiful homemade allergy-friendly bread, and I genuinely admire them. I am not making bread right now. I have a baby. I am doing enough.

This is one of the things I wish moms heard more often when they are dealing with food restrictions: you do not have to turn every lost convenience food into a new domestic skill. If you love baking, wonderful. I love that for you. I will be over here defrosting my tiny expensive loaf. And if you find one your family likes, tell another allergy mom. She may currently be standing in the bread aisle feeling personally victimized. I know the feeling.

So yes, I became emotionally attached to bread. I stand by it.

When so many ordinary foods suddenly require thought, finding one ordinary thing that works feels disproportionately exciting. It is not just bread anymore. It is toast without research. A sandwich without a project. Something I can pull out of the freezer when everybody is hungry and I have absolutely no interest in being creative.

That little loaf has earned its freezer space.